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I’m trying so hard to find the right balance between not burying my head in the sand and not absorbing so much news that I’m in a constant state of anxiety, though the latter is winning out a bit. It’s very hard not to feel sad and scared right now. I’m sorry it’s hitting so close to home for you guys.

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I think it's hitting so close to home for too many people, but I hope that we all refuse to pretend we can, individually, shoulder our burdens. Community has to be our way through this.

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I'm truly sad this is happening, and sorry that you two are closer to the most immediate impacts. I hope you can find and secure community. ❤️

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Obrigado muito, Tales. Thank you for being here.

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Thank you, Brian... for continuing to write, for taking time with your oxygen mask, and for naming the things that have so many of us feeling off-kilter. Sending positive vibes to you & your husband.

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Thank you. Stay warm in Lancaster, please!

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I don't even want to comment publicly about the specifics, but even the visibly-hetero white ladies are at risk this time around. Very, very glad I live outside the USA. Solidarity, and if needed at a moment's notice, we have a guest room and that's a real offer. I know you have options, but please consider me one of them.

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Thank you, and yes, my idea of community is expansive and inclusive of all who identify as women. Gay misogyny is one reason why I say I am queer. </soapbox>

And thank you for the offer.

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I'm feeling so overwhelmed I can't think right now. I wish I had the words.

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We will find the words together. Hugs, my old friend.

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I haven't found the words yet- but I feel this deeply too. Just a bit more time with the oxygen mask ❤️

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Keep breathing!

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Feeling all of this. I thought I would be more okay than I am. Haven’t slept much since last Monday :-/

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Even my Trazodone doesn’t guarantee decent sleep anymore. Staying focused on what I have to be grateful for, including writers like you, helps, though.

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Sorry to hear. Breathing exercises and a sleep meditation that I listen to on my headband headphones helps somewhat for me. There’s a really good book called Wake Up to Sleep by a guy (Charlie something) who worked with veterans with PTSD in the UK that has a lot of good info, including the breathing exercises. I figure if it can help soldiers who’ve seen combat it can help for the chaos we’re in here.

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